You are about to go on your first date. You prepare early because you want to be at the venue before your date arrives. You’re giddy with excitement because you’ll finally have time alone with someone you consider special. And then you remember that you’re not comfortable with the idea of starting the conversation – because you have no idea what to talk about. Fret not, though, because we gathered three of the most important questions you can ask your date. These questions serve as good conversation starters, so you and your date are guaranteed to enjoy talking to and getting to know each other.

1. What are the top three items on your bucket list?

Bucket lists are all about things that you want to do or achieve in life while you still have the opportunity to do so. You can ask your date about this, and after he/she shares, you can talk about your top three. Then you can tell your date how fun it would be if you could do all those things together. It’s not only a good conversation starter; it can also be a good way of letting your date know about your intention of staying and becoming a significant part of his/her life.

2. What is something about you that some people find surprising or unbelievable?

The answer to this question can help you learn something fun and interesting about your date. It will help show a side of him/her that you may have never seen or heard about before. After your date tells you his/her answer, you can share yours, and you can exchange thoughts and maybe even laugh about it. And then you can say something like, “That’s why we’re compatible. We have the same unique and fun personality.” Aside from giving you the chance to have fun and laugh, this question will also give you the opportunity to reiterate your intention of playing a special part in his/her life.

3. Which destinations do you want to visit before you turn 25, or 30 or 35 or 40?

Talking about travel is always a good thing. Why? Because everyone wants to travel! You can start the ball rolling by asking your date about his/her preferred travel destinations, and which ones he/she wants to visit before turning 25, 30, 35, or 40 years old. Of course, you have to share your list, too. And then, later on, you can tell your date how fun it would be if the two of you could travel together. Now, wouldn’t that be quite interesting (and exciting)?